In short, a book to be reckoned with. Adam is someone I would love to meet. It is not something that I normally would have picked up on my own. I am bothered by the fact that 90% of fetuses with a known dianosis of Trisomy 21 are aborted. It has changed some of my thinking about pregnancy and about children with disabilities, and I don't think it's too much to say it could change my life. The reviews of this made me furious. Weeks later, the amniocentesis report came back with the news that Adam had Down syndrome.
Beck writes well, and she is very honest about what she went through. Her self-deprecating humor is refreshing, and a few scenes had me laughing out loud. But finally I feel that sigh of understanding. You've had dozens and dozens, and you still want more! More importantly though, it tells the story of coming to understand the amazing spirits that are born into our homes, and the love and support we are always receiving from the other side of the veil. They were a couple obsessed with success. Are you comfortable reading fiction that insists on being called Drop-Dead True Memoir? It is an unforgettable celebration of the everyday magic that connects human souls to each other. I somehow imagined that Beck's experiences might have mirrored mine, that I would find in her a kindred spirit.
Love is the only thing on this earth that lets us see each other with the remotest accuracy. The book has been awarded with , and many others. Egg first encountered each other in my fallopian tubes—before they even had time to make any informed decision about going steady, let alone forming a biological unit—I could sense them conspiring to make my life a hell on earth. A brave, uplifting, life-transforming book. I remember a church leader telling our student congregation my freshman year of college that he felt it was important for us to know that angels really exist and administer to humans on Earth, but that was it: no further details. The juxtaposition of this non-practicing Mormon family's religious heritage, intellectual milieu, and vivid spiritual experiences made this book fascinating to me, doubly so because the author and her husband were acquaintances of mine long ago.
Martha's writing is fantastic and the story is one you can hardly put down. She is so clearly confused about herself and her family, that I felt uncomfortable reading the book, despite its redeeming qualities. So here I am riding the fence and going with 3 stars. Martha took another test and was offered an amniocentesis that would include an ultrasound. My experience at Harvard was different. She seems to be continually trying to convince herself or justify choosing a different pathway from Harvard folks around her. They named him Adam because both of them had heard that name during their mysterious encounters with the Seeing Thing.
That, and the fact that I don't think I've ever met such a clueless pregnant woman. Martha has a wonderful sense of humor that is very evident as she tells her story. Knowing more about her background since reading this book has only made it worse for me. How has your view of the world changed after reading this book? It had not been easy. By the time Adam was born, Martha and John were propelled into a world in which they were forced to redefine everything of value to them, put all their faith in miracles, and trust that they could fly without a net. I'm sorry that Martha Beck couldn't see more of that in the people around her.
Martha thought of the only foods she could imagine eating, but had no energy to go to the store that sat just nine floors below her in her own building. Essentially, she was given a pan of brownies and wanted a big box store of brownies. But overwhelmingly, I remember people with good hearts and a desire to do the right thing. It is a quality of attention to ordinary life that is loving and intimate it is almost worship. That is, we are doing the same thing as Google, only within the framework of one subject. From the moment Martha and her husband, John, accidentally conceived their second child, all hell broke loose.
She finds out the baby she is carrying has Down's Syndrome, and from then on, no one in the department mentions her pregnancy. To do this, Martha had to find a sitter for her daughter, a task that proved nearly impossible. Expecting Adam is a poignant, challenging, and achingly funny chronicle of the extraordinary nine months of Martha's pregnancy. This is what we live for, the way horses live to run. Possible writing in margins, possible underlining and highlighting of text, but no missing pages or anything that would compromise the legibility or understanding of the text. If Expecting Adam raises suspicions among more rational readers that Martha Beck is slightly crazy, it raised my hopes that I'd catch it from her. Toward the end of the story, Martha revealed her frustrations with pro-life groups, specifically the ownership desired of her story to support their movement.
Martha instinctively knew that man was her baby. For those readers who start out their lives already so wise and well-adjusted they can't imagine why kids who go to exclusive schools are sometimes so in awe of that achievement-which seems so egotistical-perhaps this book is not necessary. We bustle around trying to create the impression that we are hip, imperturbable, omniscient, in perfect control, when in fact we are awkward and scared and bewildered. I'm so sorry that she had to be beaten with the love bat relentlessly in order to let any of it into her life. Back then I had been sure of my own intellect, sure of the primacy of Reason, sure that, given enough time and training, I could control my destiny. Shortly after the placental abruption, knowing that there's something going on with the baby, she requests and receives an amniocentesis which reveals Trisomy 21. Are you comfortable reading fiction that insists on being called Drop-Dead True Memoir? It was a difficult time to have a child because both she and her husband were working on their PhD's while raising an eighteen-month-old daughter.
My daughter has continued in that family tradition of giving. After a few minutes of this experience, it subsides. However, I don't have a better descriptor, and that doesn't matter because Beck communicated her meani Martha Beck made me think hard about many things. I wish I knew Adam and his family--and of course I do. I wish I knew Adam and his family--and of course I do. I couldn't put it down. For example, prior to Adam's birth, both parents independently somehow know that Oddly enough, another one of my all time favorite books.